How To Tap Into the Hidden Dynamics Of Success In Life

Your success in life is in direct proportion to how closely your significant choices match your life theme.

You, in essence, create your life by the choices you make, much like a spider spins a web.

Although this may seem obvious, most people appear oblivious of their own creative power. They frequently make less than intelligent choices and frequently design a life with less than pleasing results. For people with unobservant eyes and unaware minds, their personal themes appear imperceptible.

For example, I know a highly creative man who purchased a franchise. Now his business owns him because he has never made a profit. When you survey his business, you can see he runs it well and his product is in high demand. Logically, he should be as successful as he envisioned–but each day is a heroic effort. His shoulders appear to carry an invisible heaviness and he shuffles like a man twice his age.

Things don’t work out for him for a simple reason: his talents don’t suit his work. Because he is pursuing the wrong theme, success in life has eluded him. His work is not aligned with his deeper desires. He is not in touch with his soul mission and with his personal gifts.

Although he is an intelligent and creative man, one who loves to ponder over technological puzzles and develop stunning solutions, his work demands a mere mechanical diligence. Unable to evolve novel technical permutations, he must suppress his creativity, letting it rot like a ripe fruit fallen from a tree.

Despite a potentially fine business, he feels disconnected from it, disenfranchised in his franchise, his mind and heart still clinging to the high tech career he left behind for this new “opportunity”.

When he chose his franchise, he was beguiled by the possibility of financial independence. He believed a lucrative business with a popular product and a proven marketing strategy would make him rich. But his business does not profit because he himself is impoverished in consciousness.

By failing to recognize his theme, he invested all his time, money, and effort into something alien to his natural instinct. In the hands of a practical, unsophisticated, down-to-earth soul, it would have flourished.

But he is not alone in his ignorance about the power of themes.

Myopia about themes can be found everywhere, accidentally pursued by all sorts of people in all sorts of ways, pursued by people who never find success in life.

Apart from people choosing jobs that don’t align with their interests, that don’t match their inner themes, that don’t fit in with their personalities, people also choose relationships with the same indifference to theme compatibility. They then create dysfunctional families, an intimate nexus of people with misaligned themes.

Theme dissonance, of course, can affect more than careers and relationships. They in fact affect every aspect of a person’s life.

Moreover, theme dissonance is not restricted to individuals, but can propagate systematically. Myopia can aggregate in groups nesting in yet larger groups. Theme dissonance can affect a whole country, and even bigger macro-systems.

Themes, ultimately, affect success in life. Themes, the aligning forces of the psyche, create coherence, coordination, and compatibility.

Ignorance of your theme can ruin your life. <

A theme is a pervasive pattern of being in the world. Your success in life depends on theme consonance.

A theme is more than a decision, more than a value, more than an assessment of self-worth. Sometimes it is a special talent, something done exceptionally well, a knack, gift, or proclivity. Often it appears to be a series of likes and dislikes that stream out of your psyche.

Since themes are enduring, getting into the wrong theme is always difficult to correct. It’s possible, but difficult. Finding a new job, a new mate, a new way of life are not easy things to do. This is why many people who find themselves locked in the wrong themes can spend a whole life in a state of dissonance. This is the quiet desperation that Thoreau mentioned. A life well lived is one that matches your theme.

When Socrates said that the unexamined life is not worth living, he may have been thinking about the dissonance that arises when a person is out of touch with their themes. He drank hemlock because his theme did not align with the cultural norms of the Athenian city-state. Although he could have chosen exile, he preferred death to living in the wrong theme. For him the wrong theme was superstitiously pandering to gods and living with unthinking people. Filled with curiosity about the meaning of things, he found it abhorrent to live with unquestioning minds.

The root of much suffering is thematic dissonance. While it appears that suffering is caused by disagreements or insufficient resources, suffering arises because of thematic dissonance.

The best way to get in touch with your inner theme is to begin a process of self-inquiry. Identifying your theme and rearranging your life around it is neither quick nor easy but it’s necessary if you hope to have a happy, fulfilling, and purposeful life.

A little light can illuminate your entire spirit. Once recognized and acted upon, themes can predict beautiful futures resonating with success in life.

Once you honor your theme, you honor your power to create success in life.

Origins Of Themes Of Success In Life

While everyone is under the illusion that their themes reflect truth this is never quite true because all themes are corrupted by early conditioning. However, once the conditioning is restructured a true theme, one that more closely reflects reality may emerge.

Themes arise historically, both for individuals and for cultures.

They originate in childhood.

A child mimics the patterns of surrounding minds, its themes conditioned by caretakers. This creates an understanding of the world. However, this understanding is fractured with misinformation; and early themes are damaged by partiality, prejudice, and perversity.

Correction of early themes only comes with the emergence of awareness, an understanding of life tempered by the forces of personal experience, personal observation, and personal revelation. Knowledge, gathered from insightful people and unearthed from informative books, is part of this process of awakening awareness. Since life is an ever-renewing flux of possibilities, a person can discover their true theme, despite the deep impression of early indoctrination.

Awareness arises from disrupting the early themes with new and startling insights, ideas that crush previous views with the strength of their authenticity.

It is from this point on that themes true to your original nature appear. These themes awaken recognition of personal power. In turn, personal power stimulates success in life.

Usually awareness arises only after the collapse of a stable life structure. Loss awakens awareness. Something unexpected in a person’s experience renews their discernment and revises their preconceived notions. They now question the veracity of prevailing beliefs.

In other words, for a theme to be a true theme and determine success in life, it has to first break away from the personal illusions generated by the original conditioned themes. A false theme is one that is imposed from the outside, one that is imposed by others. A true theme is one that arises from inside, one that is self-discovered.

A true theme is birthed when you choose anew, learn anew, and develop a completely new way of being in the world.

The habit of inquiry and of reflection, of choosing fresh observation and unique interpretation, shatters limiting ideas. A person who develops a broader and more expansive theme begins to enjoy success in life.

How To Improve Success In Life

Adrian goes to college, graduates as an aeronautics engineer, and gets married and begins to raise a family. Unfortunately, he can’t find work in his industry and works as an auto mechanic to pay his rising bills. In other words, he has the rigorous mind of an engineer but settles for handling simple mechanics. He does not experience success in life because he has betrayed his theme.

Bill, on the other hand, does not go to college. He also gets married and begins to raise a family. He, too, works at a job that is well below his potential. In his case, he sells shoes in a factory outlet mall. However, Bill knows that he has the soul of an artist. Frequently, when he is free of the demands of work and family life, he refines his skills as a painter. A time comes when he paints imaginative worlds that draw spectators into another dimension of time and space. A time comes when he has an art exhibition. And a time comes when he can make a full time income from his art.

Adrian finds life painful.

Bill finds life pleasurable.

The difference is that Bill has remained true to his theme, even when they appeared to be no opportunity to express it. The difference is that Bill has found success in life. The difference is that Bill is happy expressing his theme and experiencing his dream.

But there is also another difference, a defining difference.

The difference between Adrian and Bill can be reckoned by two factors that affect themes: constraints and talents.

Understanding constraints and talents is what allows someone to find and follow their theme. It is what allows someone an opportunity for success in life.

A constraint is a bottleneck in a process.

A process has a start, run, and stop phase.

A constraint is something in a process that impedes the flow of energy. It either completely blocks the process or it slows it down.

A constraint is not permanent. Once recognized, new decisions and new strategies can be used to correct it.

A constraint is usually a subconscious routine that worked well in childhood but serves little to no value in adulthood. It can also be an undeveloped skill.

Constraints gain their power through invisibility. They exist because they have not been identified. They come at a cost, which is the disruption of a process.

Constraints are not easy to identify. What appears obvious is not usually a constraint but the effect.

A constraint is like a criminal mastermind. The criminals who are arrested are usually the gang members, but as long as the mastermind is undetected, he can continue to recruit and train people to act for him.

Sally, for instance, has a constraint.

Sally, a poor typist, feels that the reason she gets bypassed for the big assignments is because she is not a popular person. She blames favoritism and office politics for her poor pay and her superior’s impatience with her.

Sally has mistaken the identity of the real constraint. She is looking at the effects and misidentifies these as her constraint.

However, her real constraint is a skill issue—she is a slow, inaccurate, and inefficient typist.

Since someone else who is more proficient can do more work faster, Sally is not asked to do important work in the office.

But, once a constraint is identified and corrected, an apparent miracle happens. All sorts of unpleasant effects clear up, and all sorts of new opportunities and rewards show up.

Suppose Sally is able to identify her constraint, her real constraint.

Suppose she decides to take a typing class to correct her constraint.

Once her skills improve, so will her job. She’ll find herself the darling of the office, and her income and relationships and mood will improve so much that she might imagine that she has entered a parallel universe where everything works in her favor.

Lifting a constraint is probably one of the most powerful things you can do to improve your life.

It does take effort to puzzle over your problems, observe your own behavior, catalog your outcomes, and try one theory after another until you find out what is holding you back.

What appears to be obvious is most likely not to be your constraint. What is obvious is the result of your constraint, but your constraint itself needs some detective work to uncover.

The opposite of a constraint is a talent.

A talent is a natural inclination; it is what you can do better than anyone else.

Unfortunately, like constraints, talents, too, may be hidden--because a talent often starts as a raw impulse rather than a complete configuration, a predisposition towards something rather than a consummate skill.

It’s hidden because there is not much to see, an embryonic, raw ability rather than a clearly discernible manifestation.

Suppose Sally has a natural talent as an effortless relationship builder, the ability to make people open up, trust her, and talk openly about their issues. Instead of clearing her constraint related to typing skills, another possibility for her might be to quit being a secretary and apply for a sales position, a line of work where she would be well-compensated.

Talents, again, can have a miraculous quality when unleashed. Correction here is amplification. Whatever your raw impulse, you can enhance it, allow it to flourish, and find a way to channel it.

By removing constraints and amplifying talents, you can adjust themes of success in life to better approximate reality and improve the quality of your lifestyle.

Summary Of How To Achieve Success In Life

These themes either match or contrast with other themes in your environment, your friends, spouse, work, and other associations. The more coherence you have with theme matching, the more you'll enjoy success in life.

Your theme changes over time, changing from the early theme of your childhood to your own chosen theme as you mature in thought.

It’s the expansion of your original indoctrination into rational thought.

It’s developed by the social channels your mind was exposed to in the course of your life. The quality of your lifestyle depends on how closely your themes blend in with the nature of reality. The closer they blend the better your chances of success in life.

In essence, the more coherence you have with your themes approximating the way reality is playing out, the more your chances of discovering success in life.

You can improve your themes by identifying and correcting your constraints and by identifying and improving your talents. Working with constraints and talents is a powerful tool to create success in life.

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